Friendships, Relationships, Blanket

Friendships and relationships are like blankets. They form thread by thread, each thread representing an element, a memory, a moment that contributes to the coming together of the end product. The higher the thread count, the more ideal it is.

Like good blankets, good friendships and relationships can hold you and give you a sense of security, protect you from the cold yet not too warm to the point of suffocating. When they look their best, you'll never trade it for anything.

As blankets wear and tear, so do friendships and relationships. One day it look no different from their best and the next moment, there are missing patches. There you are wondering, what happened overnight?

The truth is, it didn't happen overnight.

It happened over time. The threads got unwoven, one by one.

A thread came undone when one party starts slacking on the catching up, on the checking in. Slowly gone was the interest in each others' lives.

A thread came undone when one party stops sharing the joys and woes. Gradually, you are no longer each others' priorities or the first in mind when it comes to sharing.

A thread came undone when one party realise life isn't much of a difference when the other is not around. Surely, the paths are diverging.

A thread came undone when there was an issue and neither side talked about it. Sweeping it under the carpet, perhaps you thought it would pass. Little did you know, it became a landmine when another issue linked to the first issue came up and suddenly, many more threads come undone.

It could have been just one loose thread, that one isolated incident. Or so you thought. But one loose thread could lead to the undoing of all the threads.

It wasn't noticeable during the undoing but all of a sudden, there was nothing left.

When threads come undone, it's never just the fault of one party. By then, it's pointless to fault anyone or try to pinpoint who contributed more to the undoing.

Question is, how could we have stop the undoing?