06th Feb 2019: First CNY Giving Out Angbaos!
Angbaos going out like "shiuw shiuw shiuw"!
It kinda feels weird giving out angbaos. To be honest though, I do enjoy the angbao packing. Lenson wanted to do it on his own but I kindly volunteered. LOL. Thought it was more loving and meaningful to do it together at least for the first time.
Then I realised, I actually like the process of sorting out the money into stacks and getting them ready, then putting in the money (not the sealing part though). The feeling of being armed with red packets appeals to me too.
The amount of money in angbaos from relatives never mattered to me. I still remember how I use to stash the angbaos in a random corner in my room because I was so lazy to open them. For the past few years, Lenson has been opening my angbaos with me for me. Obviously there are lesser angbaos to open this year, but the blessings from the relatives are what truly matter to me.
It's totally expected, the cliche questions. Following are some of the answers that I may or may not have said out loud as responses.
"How's marriage life?"
To be honest, not much difference. I'm still as lazy as ever, Lenson is still as gentle as ever. The only difference is that we get to spend more time together because I've shifted to his house.
"Do you plan to have a pig baby this year?"
If there is no such thing as pain, yes, I would probably be already expecting (if my body is healthy) wtf. Unfortunately, defloration is too painful for me to go through so a pig baby is probably impossible.
"When is your new house ready and where you staying now?"
Currently staying with Lenson's parents and paternal grandmother on most days, especially when there is work the next day. Will stay over back at my house with my parents and younger brother when there is no work the next day, which is mostly weekends. Will be shifting to a condo temporary while waiting for BTO to be done. BTO will be done in 2021 or 2022.
"How do you feel giving angbaos?"
Great! I found another thing that I like to do with Lenson. To me, I'm happy that I get to give blessings to the younger ones. I really don't see it as "losing money" even though I do joke about it like that with my friends lol!
First day
This year, we decided to visit my paternal grandparents early. We've learned from the past few years that there is no point visiting in the afternoon because there is mostly no one around, and it would just be the two of them, my aunt, and probably Lenson and I plus my younger brother who will probably do nothing much but watch TV.
It's not that I have never tried pulling us closer to my paternal grandparents. It's just that I find there is no point. I remember the time when Lenson and I were excited to share our travel pics with them, but all they do is talk about their travel moments with their daughters (my aunts) while watching TV. I am also always reminded of how excluded my brother (their only grandson who carries the family surname) and I when I see the family portrait they hung up on the wall facing the unit entrance.
It was never the same since my father passed away and it never will be. I miss my father very much and I am so willing to fulfill the filial piety on his behalf. The truth is though, the effort is nothing but waste.
My brother agreed to head back to Lenson's place after visiting our paternal grandparents. It was bustling with so much activities! Love it! Overwhelming too though.
I really do admire how tightly knitted Lenson's families and the relatives are. The cousins are really like brothers and sisters. My brother also joined in for some games! There's nothing that matters more to me than my family so I really value the time I have with my brother. Soooo happy that he agreed to come over to Lenson's house. Hehe.
Lenson and I sent him back home after dinner. Wanted to do CNY greetings with my parents but my dad was sleeping and mum just recovered from headache so... next day then!
Second Day
Lenson and I headed straight for my parents' house and exchanged Christmas greetings. It was cute seeing how awkward my younger brother was when he wished Lenson and I HAHAHA.
Went to eat prata near dad's brother's house. Prata for the win!
We stayed longer than usual today. It felt adult for us. Discussing about potential family conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law and potential triggers such as different parenting methods.
So far, I haven't had any conflicts with Lenson's mum after marriage life. She has been doting and I appreciate that. I think it might be because she went the tell-Lenson-to-tell-Chair route. Parenting method wise... I don't have anything in particular in mind. I truly trust Lenson's parents, his grandparents, and my own parents to help guide and nurture my future children (if I have wtf).
The only nono is if they use easy-way-out sentences like, "If you do this later the bangla catch you," or "If you do this later police catch you," or "If you don't study, you become like them (referring to janitors, cleaners, dish washers)."
Rationale being:
It kinda feels weird giving out angbaos. To be honest though, I do enjoy the angbao packing. Lenson wanted to do it on his own but I kindly volunteered. LOL. Thought it was more loving and meaningful to do it together at least for the first time.
Then I realised, I actually like the process of sorting out the money into stacks and getting them ready, then putting in the money (not the sealing part though). The feeling of being armed with red packets appeals to me too.
The amount of money in angbaos from relatives never mattered to me. I still remember how I use to stash the angbaos in a random corner in my room because I was so lazy to open them. For the past few years, Lenson has been opening my angbaos with me for me. Obviously there are lesser angbaos to open this year, but the blessings from the relatives are what truly matter to me.
It's totally expected, the cliche questions. Following are some of the answers that I may or may not have said out loud as responses.
"How's marriage life?"
To be honest, not much difference. I'm still as lazy as ever, Lenson is still as gentle as ever. The only difference is that we get to spend more time together because I've shifted to his house.
"Do you plan to have a pig baby this year?"
If there is no such thing as pain, yes, I would probably be already expecting (if my body is healthy) wtf. Unfortunately, defloration is too painful for me to go through so a pig baby is probably impossible.
"When is your new house ready and where you staying now?"
Currently staying with Lenson's parents and paternal grandmother on most days, especially when there is work the next day. Will stay over back at my house with my parents and younger brother when there is no work the next day, which is mostly weekends. Will be shifting to a condo temporary while waiting for BTO to be done. BTO will be done in 2021 or 2022.
"How do you feel giving angbaos?"
Great! I found another thing that I like to do with Lenson. To me, I'm happy that I get to give blessings to the younger ones. I really don't see it as "losing money" even though I do joke about it like that with my friends lol!
First day
This year, we decided to visit my paternal grandparents early. We've learned from the past few years that there is no point visiting in the afternoon because there is mostly no one around, and it would just be the two of them, my aunt, and probably Lenson and I plus my younger brother who will probably do nothing much but watch TV.
It's not that I have never tried pulling us closer to my paternal grandparents. It's just that I find there is no point. I remember the time when Lenson and I were excited to share our travel pics with them, but all they do is talk about their travel moments with their daughters (my aunts) while watching TV. I am also always reminded of how excluded my brother (their only grandson who carries the family surname) and I when I see the family portrait they hung up on the wall facing the unit entrance.
It was never the same since my father passed away and it never will be. I miss my father very much and I am so willing to fulfill the filial piety on his behalf. The truth is though, the effort is nothing but waste.
My brother agreed to head back to Lenson's place after visiting our paternal grandparents. It was bustling with so much activities! Love it! Overwhelming too though.
I really do admire how tightly knitted Lenson's families and the relatives are. The cousins are really like brothers and sisters. My brother also joined in for some games! There's nothing that matters more to me than my family so I really value the time I have with my brother. Soooo happy that he agreed to come over to Lenson's house. Hehe.
Lenson and I sent him back home after dinner. Wanted to do CNY greetings with my parents but my dad was sleeping and mum just recovered from headache so... next day then!
Second Day
Lenson and I headed straight for my parents' house and exchanged Christmas greetings. It was cute seeing how awkward my younger brother was when he wished Lenson and I HAHAHA.
Went to eat prata near dad's brother's house. Prata for the win!
We stayed longer than usual today. It felt adult for us. Discussing about potential family conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law and potential triggers such as different parenting methods.
So far, I haven't had any conflicts with Lenson's mum after marriage life. She has been doting and I appreciate that. I think it might be because she went the tell-Lenson-to-tell-Chair route. Parenting method wise... I don't have anything in particular in mind. I truly trust Lenson's parents, his grandparents, and my own parents to help guide and nurture my future children (if I have wtf).
The only nono is if they use easy-way-out sentences like, "If you do this later the bangla catch you," or "If you do this later police catch you," or "If you don't study, you become like them (referring to janitors, cleaners, dish washers)."
Rationale being:
- It isn't right for the kid to learn that bangla is degrading. People can't choose the colour of the skin, the race, the family background they are born into. These black skinned foreign workers came to Singapore legally, under sometimes-less-than-ideal living conditions. It is NOT OKAY to degrade them further in any way. My kids should appreciate the contribution they make to the country.
- Police are people maintaining the law and order in Singapore. They are the ones who keep our neighbourhood safe. They are the ones we should not be afraid of approaching should we feel unsafe at any point of time. It is NOT OKAY for my kid to feel that they need to be afraid of the police.
- Most adults still require people to clean up after them. Without road sweepers, dish washers, etc, who is gonna clean up after those adults? Without them, Singapore won't be as clean as it is today. My kid should be grateful to these people. Not mocking them or believe that these down-to-earth jobs are dirty.
Other than that... Sleeping, carrying duration, don't matter much to me. It would be great if my kid is smart and intelligent, but I would be happier if my kid is kind and morally upright.
Went to my mum's friend's house after that! Enjoyed dinner but by this time, I was already super duper tired. My eyes were closing and I was on the verge of dozing off right on the sofa.
Nevertheless, I really do enjoy seeing my mum laugh and enjoy time with her friends.
CNY is tiring but it's eventful and I love it.
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