28th Jun 2018: Post-Birthday Thoughts
I've set my birthday to private (Only me) on Facebook. Since years ago, it has dawned on me that the many "happy birthday"s were pretty pointless. Most of the wishes come from people only wished because Facebook notified them.
Quality to me, outweighs quantity. What matter to me really are the thoughts and efforts from people who I feel I made effort for. Gifts don't even matter. A card would have made me very happy. But otherwise, even a simple wishing makes me contented to know they kept me in their thoughts.
It was a good way to sieve out people who make the effort to remember your birthday and people who are not. For the past few years, a few people have been wishing me without fail. People like Chandru, my Wife, my Sweetheart. There are usually a few belated ones from people who are bad with dates like Boon, Dodo.
It has been a little disappointing this year. When people like Gavin didn't remember my birthday at all when he used to rant about how he is always the one who remembered Boon and Wilson's birthday. I thought we were close buddies. But the doubt is real now.
My two closest friends from Legends didn't wish me either, Rinn and Rem.
On Rinn's birthday, Rem made the effort to organize a dinner, trip to Tabs and gave her earrings from a branded Jewellery shop. I didn't ask for expensive gifts even. Just a simple wishing. But on my birthday, he just kept going on and on about the garden bot. Of course, I know where I stand. I don't spend as much time as Rinn does with Rem or put in as much effort. Surely I would deserve at least a "happy birthday" after being friends and working closely for many things for 5 years?
To be honest, it was already disappointing that Rinn forgot about my birthday. What was more disappointing were the excuses she gave. She said she needed to sleep early. Not valid because we were discussing about Taobao and fashion over Facebook Messenger. She said the internet connection was weak. Not valid because she was changing her display picture and loading pictures from Facebook. In the end, through the comments, it just sounds like she don't even remember the date.
She always said she doesn't have a lot of close friends. And I was one of them. Yet she forgot my birthday. Would she have forgotten Rem's birthday like that? Again, it goes to show where I stand.
Boon sent me a belated wishing this year. He apologized and added on that he was bad with dates. He said he would add that into his calendar. Whether he does or not, I have no idea. But his simple sorry sufficed. I've known him for many years and him being bad with dates was already something I accepted since.
Dodo messaged me in the afternoon to apologize too. Which to be fair. I have already expected that. I don't fault him either.
Ultimately, I know people's world don't revolve me. Late wishings are okay, but excuses are not. I rather there be an honest sorry than trying to justify me being forgotten.
As a result, I have decided to leave Legends for real.
To others, this may sound like I'm a petty girl who makes a big fuss over birthday wishings. Personally, I think this is a good time to understand where you stand.
At the age of 24, I am done spending too much time and effort on people who don't fucking care. Life is short and I want to make full use of it on people who are worth the time and effort.
Fuck everyone who took me for granted and think it is okay to continue doing so.
Quality to me, outweighs quantity. What matter to me really are the thoughts and efforts from people who I feel I made effort for. Gifts don't even matter. A card would have made me very happy. But otherwise, even a simple wishing makes me contented to know they kept me in their thoughts.
It was a good way to sieve out people who make the effort to remember your birthday and people who are not. For the past few years, a few people have been wishing me without fail. People like Chandru, my Wife, my Sweetheart. There are usually a few belated ones from people who are bad with dates like Boon, Dodo.
It has been a little disappointing this year. When people like Gavin didn't remember my birthday at all when he used to rant about how he is always the one who remembered Boon and Wilson's birthday. I thought we were close buddies. But the doubt is real now.
My two closest friends from Legends didn't wish me either, Rinn and Rem.
On Rinn's birthday, Rem made the effort to organize a dinner, trip to Tabs and gave her earrings from a branded Jewellery shop. I didn't ask for expensive gifts even. Just a simple wishing. But on my birthday, he just kept going on and on about the garden bot. Of course, I know where I stand. I don't spend as much time as Rinn does with Rem or put in as much effort. Surely I would deserve at least a "happy birthday" after being friends and working closely for many things for 5 years?
To be honest, it was already disappointing that Rinn forgot about my birthday. What was more disappointing were the excuses she gave. She said she needed to sleep early. Not valid because we were discussing about Taobao and fashion over Facebook Messenger. She said the internet connection was weak. Not valid because she was changing her display picture and loading pictures from Facebook. In the end, through the comments, it just sounds like she don't even remember the date.
She always said she doesn't have a lot of close friends. And I was one of them. Yet she forgot my birthday. Would she have forgotten Rem's birthday like that? Again, it goes to show where I stand.
Boon sent me a belated wishing this year. He apologized and added on that he was bad with dates. He said he would add that into his calendar. Whether he does or not, I have no idea. But his simple sorry sufficed. I've known him for many years and him being bad with dates was already something I accepted since.
Dodo messaged me in the afternoon to apologize too. Which to be fair. I have already expected that. I don't fault him either.
Ultimately, I know people's world don't revolve me. Late wishings are okay, but excuses are not. I rather there be an honest sorry than trying to justify me being forgotten.
As a result, I have decided to leave Legends for real.
To others, this may sound like I'm a petty girl who makes a big fuss over birthday wishings. Personally, I think this is a good time to understand where you stand.
At the age of 24, I am done spending too much time and effort on people who don't fucking care. Life is short and I want to make full use of it on people who are worth the time and effort.
Fuck everyone who took me for granted and think it is okay to continue doing so.
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